Parenting styles vary depending on the attitude of the parent and the temperament of the child. Yes being a parent is hard But did you know that you can make your parenting journey easier?
Read on to find out what are the 10 parenting tips every parent must know about raising happy, well-adjusted children.
1] Look at things through your child’s eyes
Every parent should know that children see things from a different perspective. For them, a bucket of dirt or a small hill of sand equals an afternoon of adventure. So, see the fun through their eyes, get down with them and play your heart out.
2] If you want your children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders.
“Do not handicap your children by making their lives easy.” ~ Robert A Heinlein
“It is not what you do for your children but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.” ~ Ann Landers
“If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders.” ~ Abigail Van Buren
3] Irresponsible Financial Attitude:
Many parents are not very wise with money and don’t model healthy financial responsibility. While some cater to a child’s every whim and fancy, others are excessively stingy. Some continuously overspend and live beyond their means, while others keep finances a secret and pretend like money doesn’t matter.
Children whose every need is fulfilled may fail to realize the real value of money and may develop bad habits. Studies have shown that by 7 years old, most children have already formed the money habits they will carry into adulthood, so it’s important to teach kids about money before then.
4] Mistakes happen
All parents have a hard time with their kids, even those who seem to raise their kids effortlessly. Do not belittle yourself or think that other parents are better than you. All parents will make mistakes. Just learn from them and move on.
5] Read, Read, Read:
When it comes to picking up a book and having story time with your kid, there is no such thing as starting too early. Reading to preschoolers—and keeping books at home—encourages language development, reading skills, and future success in school. “Even if your child is still too young to understand everything you’re saying, he will learn to notice the rhythms of language, which will help him build a listening vocabulary,” explains Susan M. Heim, author of It’s Twins! Parent-to-Parent Advice from Infancy Through Adolescence . In fact, reading to your child has been proven to help them emotionally.
6] Too Much Pampering or Interfering
On the flip side of neglect, too much pampering or involvement can spoil the child by making them too demanding and dependent.
Many parents overprotect their children and interfere in their activities to such an extent that when they grow up, they are incapable of taking care of themselves and become anxious, incompetent, and incapable of making decisions.
Actively listening to your child means eye contact, not interrupting, and not waiting for your turn to talk. If they aren’t asking for advice, don’t give it. Instead ask them questions like, “What do you think you could do about that?” or “How did that make you feel?” Really hearing what your child wants to tell you will encourage them to continue communicating. Making every conversation a lesson (given by you) leaves them feeling inferior and disempowered. Take advantage of time together in the car or at meals and practice just hearing their ideas with an open minded.
8] You have to be the parent your child needs, and not the parent you wished you had:
“There are times as a parent when you realize that your job is not to be the parent you always imagined you’d be, the parent you always wished you had. Your job is to be the parent your child needs, given the particulars of his or her own life and nature.” ~ Ayelet Waldman
9] Give your children more time to play:
When I say “play,” I’m not referring to arcade or iPad games. I’m referring to unstructured playtime, preferably outdoors.
Raising Happiness describes how playtime is essential for children’s learning and growth. The research even indicates that the less unstructured playtime children have, the more likely they are to have developmental issues related to their physical, emotional, social, and mental well-being.
Having a playful attitude is even linked to superior academic performance. So give your children more unstructured playtime, and they’ll become better students.
10] Reduce your children’s TV time:
The studies quoted in Raising Happiness show a strong link between increased happiness and less TV time. In other words, happy people watch less TV than unhappy people.
A study of over 4,000 teenagers found that those who watched more TV were more likely to become depressive. This likelihood increased with more TV time.
Set an example for your children by limiting your own TV time. You can also have a family discussion to decide on your family’s TV-watching guidelines.
The research I found focused on TV time, but I’m sure the results would be similar for other kinds of screen time as well.