Mr Seun Lawal who worked with a publishing company at Lagos with a net income of not less than 200,000 naira. He has a pretty wife who resigned from her job as a customer service agent in a reputable bank at Lagos too to take care of the children as her husband demanded. Their marriage was blessed with three beautiful children, a boy and two girls.
He however, has a bad habit which was- drinking to stupor and this habit started three months after the birth of their first child and only son,Afolabi.
Due to his drinking habit,he became oblivious of the fact that his family needed emotional and financial contribution from him for their growth and progress. He barely provided for the family and rebuked his wife whenever she approached him with the idea of running a little store within their neighborhood so as to support the family.
His adamant attitude to harken to her suggestion got his wife worried. She decided to meet her elder sister for financial assistance which was turned down. Her sister’s reason was that there was an economic melt down in the country and this affected her financially. She was advised to take money away from her husband whenever he returned home dead drunk.
She thought of the advice as a good idea and from that day onward she started taking money from him in that manner every night to at least prepare breakfast for the children.
Mr Lawal was not addicted to drinking, he was also a gambler. He had a clique of friends who did the same and they encouraged him to partake in it.
On one fateful morning,their son, Afolabi fell ill and needed an immediate medical attention. His wife suggested that they take him to the hospital, but he refused saying that no one in his family ever went to any hospital. He invited an old man( a local herbal doctor) that he knew within the neighborhood to attend to his son. The old man came along with an herbal concoction(agbo) and administered it to the boy.
The next day,the boy felt strong and it was believed that he was pulling through. Exactly a week after, he relapsed. This time around the sickness was more fatal than it was before. He began to convulse at the middle of the night. Mr Lawal tried to get in touch with the old man which he succeeded in, but before they could get to his house, Afolabi had breath his last.
There was great mourning by dawn, neighbours trooped into their house in their numbers. Mr Lawal’s parents hurried down to his house as soon as they heard the sad news. His wife refused to be consoled, she cried profusely and cursed. She blamed her husband for the cause of her son’s death.
“Why will you blame my son for the death of Afolabi?” Mr Lawal’s mum asked.
“He’s the cause of everything, mama. When I advised him to take our son to the hospital, he refused giving the flimsy excuse that no one goes to the hospital in his family.
I know he said that because he didn’t want to bring out money for medical bills. He’s so irresponsible. I’m the one who caters for the children’s meal by taking away money from his pocket anytime he’s dead drunk,” she replied amidst tears.
“Ah! Seun is that true? Is your wife saying the truth?” his father verified.
“I didn’t have any money on me for hospital bills and that’s why I invited the old man to treat him,” he defended.
“But we are all aware of your monthly income in this family. How come your wife and children suffers this much? Tell us, what happened to your money?” his father asked further.
“Just before he fell ill, I…I lost all my income for last month on gambling, ”he replied in shame.
“Ah!!! Ah!!! Ah!!! ” everyone present chorused.
Life Lesson: In marriage, the husband have a role to play as well as the wife. It’s shameful to neglect your role in the family. It shows a high level of irresponsibility to know your role and ignore it waiting for your partner to take complete responsibility of both roles especially if you know you are capable of doing it.